Now we had a fairly rough idea of guest amounts and budget before looking around our venues but without knowing how much everything was going to cost we were unable to really think about our guest list. Equally our venue dictated the day numbers, the room for the civil ceremony had a max and minimum number of guests.
A very naff hint, but it worked for us, is to invest in a little white board. This will enable you to write who must be there, who you really want there, who you would like there and those which would be nice to have there. Once you know how much you prepared to spend this will help you decide who out of those list are going to be able to come. Also if you are familiar with excel creating a spread sheet will be useful in the months to come- for adding RSVPS and addresses to the sheet
I wouldn't get to hung up on the guest list at this stage because having thought about ours a couple of months ago it has already evolved and changed in this short space of time (and will probably continue to change)
Decide who you really want there and base the day numbers around this. Having spoke to a couple of friends who have got really stressed by their list and been pressured by their family to invite the couple who used to babysit them etc I would say try not to be bullied into having a massive day if it isn't what you want.
It will always be difficult as people have different budgets and family dynamics, and ultimately if one party are paying for the whole thing it does become tricky. However it is still your day and the most important thing is that you have the people who are a part of you life there without having to be in debt for the next 5 years.
We have gone for a small day of just 40, enabling us to use the room we wanted for the ceremony. The evening numbers are an additional 60 guests, which we are hoping will be a good balance.....time will tell!
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